Becoming the Real Thing

June 22, 2015


Every situation and every relationship is a test of servanthood or selfishness, a step forward or a step back. 

Think of the people in your life right now. Think of the situations, the difficulties and the joys. Every person and every circumstance is ordained by God to help you strip away any selfishness in your life and learn to serve him and others more fully.

Here are some steps to take to serve Jesus and others more fully: 

  1. Experience reflexive prayer. 

As soon as you recognize a need, look to the Master for direction and strength in the big things and in the small, to give thanks and to gain wisdom for a decision.

  1. Give something you value. 

Have an open heart and an open hand. When was the last time you had the joy of giving away something important to you? Is there anything you treasure so much that you aren’t willing to give it away?

  1. Go out of your way to help someone.

Sure, you’re busy. So was Jesus. But he noticed the needs of people around him and stopped to meet those needs. And he did it cheerfully, not with a look of disgust because they were bothering him.

  1. Keep silent. 

Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. Don’t defend yourself unless you absolutely must. Let God be your defender.

  1. Don’t retaliate. Redeem! 

The easiest thing to do is to take revenge. Make the choice to return blessing for cursing, and see how God uses you.

  1. Have a bite of humble pie.

Ask questions and listen. Don’t demand your own way.

  1. Take the lowest position. 

When you are with peers, give sincere recognition and appreciation of others. Notice and name their successes, not yours.

  1. Be obedient. 

Recognize that God is in control, so you can submit to authority. You can voice your opinions in a gracious way, but trust in God’s sovereignty will take away any bitterness and demanding tones from your voice.

  1. Forgive.

As we grasp the depth and breadth and height of God’s forgiveness of our sins, we will choose to follow his example and forgive those who hurt us.

What would you add? Which one is the hardest for you? Why?

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