In my previous post, I listed the first six reasons why individuals resists change. In today’s post, we will look at six additional reasons as outlined in the workbook Discovering Your NorthStar.
- Refusing to Look at New Solutions.
Too often, our creative thinking process is much too narrow. We need to get “out of the box” and find new answers to our problems and challenges. The pace of change in today’s Information Age is staggering. Almost every day we hear about a new software or a new computer technology that can do more, is faster, and is better than the day before. Some of us throw up our hands and say, “It’s no use. I can’t keep up.”
Do you know people who can find something negative in even the most beneficial and pleasant change? I do. They gripe about anything and everything. To them, Change necessarily means loss, so they resist any and all disruption in the way things are.
- A Lack of Vision.
If we have a clear vision of where we want to go, we can take charge of our lives and make those decisions based on the consuming passion of our lives, not the whims of others.
We don’t need vision to make some changes happen, like death and taxes. But we need vision to know how to respond to them. When someone dies, a child grows up and moves away, or forced retirement rears its head, we need a clear sense that this, too, is a part of the unfolding of the plan for our lives. Our response to these negative changes can produce a deep, rich wisdom . . . or bitterness. It’s all up to us.
- A Lack of Confidence.
Even those who seem the most confident on the outside may have deep, hidden fears that they might not be up to the task this time.
If a person has experienced a particular change before, the level of confidence —or fear— is directly related to that past experience. If a death in the family devastated the person years ago, he or she may anticipate the same heartache as another loved one nears death. These fears become self-fulfilling. If a job change has gone smoothly in the past and the person quickly developed good relationships with new co-workers, then he or she will have confidence in moving to a new job and relating to new people. That, too, becomes self-fulfilling.
- Clinging to Tradition.
Traditions give stability to our lives. Families may go to the same places for vacations, or have the same breakfast on Christmas morning, or do the same special things on birthdays or anniversaries. There’s nothing in the world wrong with reinforcing fond memories—unless these traditions get in the way of necessary changes. When patterns keep us stuck instead of providing appropriate stability, it’s time to change those patterns.
- A Lack of Support.
We all need encouragement and feedback. We need the kindness and support of family and friends in the dreaming stage, the planning stage, and the action stage of change. A few of us are tough enough to force our way ahead without this encouragement, but we miss out on the wisdom a fellow traveler can give us along the way. Some of us won’t take any steps without someone holding our hands. For these people, the changes are simply too threatening to even consider unless we feel the love (and maybe a gentle shove) of a close friend or family member.
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